Universal Conspiracies

Sometimes in the very dark places, you find the brightest ideas.

And there are some pretty dark places when you are seriously ill. Filled with doubt, your beliefs challenged – sometimes when they are still only hopes – you can overthink a lot of things. Not only do you question your own judgement and second guess your own decisions, there are a plethora of others around you doing the exact same thing.

Avoiding disapproving medical people is fairly important and they will be the most negative to a journey with natural therapy. A good doctor to oversea and support you is great but one that is less than committed to your path will keep taking you back to those dark places of doubt and fear.

Well meaning family and friends can go either way. Beware those that say things like ‘Wow, its great you are doing this…be careful though.’ Or ‘Maybe if you just have the medical treatment, we can stop worrying about you so much.’ While they may be simply concerned, stressed out on your behalf or simply cannot see how what you are doing (without conventional treatment) can be OK, their words can plant seeds of insecurity in your mind.

So what are the bright ideas?

Put yourself in a peaceful place as often as possible. This is a great way to combat creeping stress that you can not afford to have while you are ill. Use the hypnosis tools you have learned as often as possible; make them work for you.

Constantly research and reinforce what you are doing. This keeps you on top of the latest information and in touch with others on the same journey. Keep a journal and write everything down. While at times it is discouraging when there seems to only be a minute amount of improvement (or you have hit a plateau), it is so empowering to look back at how far you have come. You may also be reminded of something you did earlier that you need to add back into your current protocol.

Most importantly

Believe in yourself. You must do this more than anything else. Without doing this, you will struggle to succeed. Your will to get well must be stronger than anything else. It must be stronger than the negative emotions you have felt in the past; the fears you felt you couldn’t face; the guilt you hid; the shame you felt you would rather have died than revealed. Regardless of how people reacted at the time, the words that were spoken, the actions they took. They were all mis-takes. In every instance you mis-took the situation. Nothing more, nothing less.

Let go of it. Life is calling you. Listen.

We all know about that strong-flowing brown creek where we end up after one of our less intelligent decisions with no paddle to get us back to the safety of the bank. We just keep getting rushed along further and faster, until eventually, we sink.

As a rule though, along the way, we find a whole heap more negative actions to try and correct things; make them go away, so to speak.

‘De Nial is not a river in Egypt’ they say, but it’s a good place to begin the paddle

Denial is a good ‘go to’ for starters. Denial of responsibility I mean. We easily fall into the belief that people or circumstances outside our control are responsible for where we are and how we came to be there. But are they?

This is where it gets a bit tricky. We have all heard the ‘new agers’ repeating the mantra ‘you create your own reality’, but how many actually tell you what that means except for saying that all your thoughts create your reality. So how does that happen? That thoughts are energy and what you think manifests in your life? Really? Well if thats true, we should be able to think ourselves out of anything instantly. Never seems that easy though, does it?

Truth is, it’s the decisions we make, in line with our beliefs, that put us in the sticky situations we face as well as the great ones. We have an inner knowing of whats right vs what’s wrong but sometimes the ingrained beliefs override it. A couple of simple examples: Anyone who knows me, knows that I believe that family comes first, always. They also know that I have a great respect for the law and that rules are there to keep us safe and should be respected, always. But if something were to happen to  my daughter and I believed her only hope was to get to the ER urgently and that meant breaking the speed limit to get her there – regardless of the lawful consequences – I would most likely take that risk, break the speed limit and get her there. So strong is that belief to protect the her, that everything I know goes by the wayside.

Creating reality – losing a paddle

So we pull into the ER with a police car on our tail with his lights flashing, I find out that  life threatening or not, I’ve lost my licence on the spot and copped a $500 speeding ticket and an appointment with a magistrate. I’m also told that an ambulance could have come and treated her on the spot. The policemen point out that I could have cost someone else their life by driving like a maniac. But in a moment of panic, the facts went out the window and the beliefs took over.

The consequences of this would impact work; how do I get to work now without a licence? Relationship; through a stupid decision we are now a one income family with a new and unexpected big bill to pay. Family; I can’t even visit now because I no longer have a licence. On it goes, you get the picture.

Denial

Well hell, it’s not my fault, I was just doing what I thought was right. If that bloody copper hadn’t been there, everything would have been OK. If she had been doing the right thing, she wouldn’t have been hurt in the first place and none of this would have happened.

Really easy to blame everyone and everything else. Truth is, my stupid decision has impacted everyone. And I knew it was wrong.

Another fork in the creek, another paddle

So from here, there is another choice, another decision to make. There is the fork in the creek to the right which has a little rough white water but looks pretty good the other side of the rocks. There is the fork to the left that runs dark and deep but vision ahead is obscured. It would be far easier with one paddle to take the left fork and cruise along comfortably, blaming everyone and everything else. A few beers to bolster the self righteousness, a bit of anger to increase the isolation and when the end appears, maybe just keep paddling flat out in circles until you disappear….well, you know where you disappear to…

Or there is the fork to the right. Sure it will be a bit rough at the start but why follow one bad decision with another? If enough thought is put in, there will be a way through it. Sure, there is still that big bill to pay but maybe there’s another way to work. Maybe you’ve been thinking about studying or doing something else anyway and were too afraid to do it; this could be the right time.

It was a mis-take you made. Take responsibility and move on. Never look back, look forward and make it better. Always think how you can make things better and  stronger and know that there will always be mis-takes but mostly we get to learn from them, grow in ourselves and then have that information and knowledge that we can pass on to prevent others from making the same ones that we did.

Create a great reality

Our thoughts and beliefs really do create our reality and keeping a rational open mind is not always easy. Life would be so much easier if we always had the benefit of foresight and could see how our decisions were going to turn out before we make them. But we only know what we know  and after one of those steep ‘learning curves’ we do have the benefit of hindsight and thats something, no matter how painful, we should hang onto with all our might.

(from Cancer Free)

Most of us journey on blindly through our days, not seeing much, not doing much, just ploughing along the highway of life heading toward some distant goal, knowing that once we reach it, everything will be OK. It will all be worth it.

What is your worth?

How do we know that everything will be OK? We have spent years being indoctrinated with the belief that this is what life is about. The measure of our success is a nice house, nice car, nice family and a respectable job with a good income to support it. All we need to do is follow the right path and we will be fine. But what happens when something goes wrong?

John has spent years working his way up the ladder of the promotional company he works for. Things are looking good and he knows there is an opening coming up and he is next in line for the promotion. All those extra hours, all the favours for his boss, going out of his way for clients on his personal time. Well, it’s all about to pay off.

Perceptions

Johns wife Mary has been juggling their 2 kids and her job at the local K-Mart store. Her wages cover the childcare, the groceries and the ‘buy now, pay later’ bill for the household furniture. They scored a great deal there, a whole house package – beds, fridge, dining and lounge – all brand new. Beautiful furniture for their new house. Well you can’t have second hand stuff in a new house. What would John’s clients think when they have to meet at home on the weekend? Can’t take any chances there.

John’s whole wage goes on paying the mortgage. If only she could get some more time with the kids though and it would be good if they could have two cars. They had traded their two cars in on John’s 2nd hand BMW and used up all their savings as well to buy it. It was important that John have a nice car for work. The commodore just didn’t fit the executive profile. It’s OK. Once John gets to the next level, everything will be so much better. They’ll have more money, Mary will be able to quit her job and have all her time with the kids. They’ll be a real family and be able to afford to do stuff on the weekends.

Life is looking rosy and they are on their way to having the life of their dreams. All they need to do is keep heading straight up the road toward their goals. When they finally get there they will be the admired, respected and successful people with the life they have dreamed of. Yeah, it will all be worth it.

It’s a big morning. The meeting has been set for 10.00am and if the new client signs on the dotted line, that promotion is in the bag. John is driving into work in the BMW and notices it is making that knocking noise again. It’s been happening for weeks. As he sits idling at the lights, he thinks to himself, ‘It’s been doing that for a while now, I should really get it looked at. There just never seems to be any money left for anything these days.’ As he accelerates away from the lights, he becomes aware of a thick cloud of white smoke behind him. To his horror, he realises it’s coming from his car. Oh God, not now!

John is still pacing up and down the pavement as he waits impatiently for the tow truck. It’s 8.30am. He’s still an hour from work and the meeting is set for 10.00am. ‘This shouldn’t be happening’ he thinks to himself, ‘Today of all days, my big chance to get ahead. Everything I’m worth is riding on this one meeting; why is this happening today!’

The tow truck arrives, takes all Johns details, he hails a taxi and he’s mobile again. Its 8.45am. Won’t be much time to go over the deal but it’ll be OK. Heading over the Gateway bridge, the traffic is really starting to flow now, things are looking up.

John never really saw what happened next. About 4 cars ahead there was a road train and two lanes across from it there was a concrete truck. In front of the concrete truck, a guy in a delivery van tried to duck into a gap that was too small. The concrete truck driver hit his brakes hard and swerved across the highway right into the side of the first trailer of the road train which was carrying live cattle. The last thing John was aware of was a loud bang and a blackness that overwhelmed him.

When john was released from hospital, he caught a taxi home with a heavy heart. While he was recovering he had learned that his strongest rival in the company had managed to step in, handle his client and close the deal. He had also scored the coveted promotion that John had worked so hard for.

His car was going to cost about $5000 to repair – the engine was buggered due to lack of maintenance. Mary had to take the kids to the childcare centre by bus and had been late to work every day and she had been given her notice as she had become too unreliable. Without Mary’s wage, they’d never be able to afford the furniture, the food and the house repayments.

‘How can this be happening’ John thought. ‘Just a few short weeks ago, I was in line for an excellent promotion that would have made me a valuable part of my company and allowed us to live the life we dreamed. Now I’ve wrecked everything. I should have had the car checked when it first started making a noise. Because I didn’t do that, I’ve missed out on the promotion that I worked so hard for and Mary lost her job. Now we will also lose all our furniture because we won’t be able to pay for it and maybe even our house.

How can things get so off track? What can I do now? I feel totally worthless’.

Can you relate?

Have you ever found yourself in Johns position (or similar)?